“The beginning of strife is like releasing water; Therefore stop contention before a quarrel starts”—Proverbs 17:14 NKJV
One thing many friendships and relationships have in common is conflict. Conflict may arise from a misunderstood text, lack of communication, or even a difference in expectations. The truth is, that conflict is an inevitable part of every relationship, hence, what matters is how you handle it.One of the devil’s tactics is to sow seeds of discord in relationships, so when you fixate on the hurt, he takes advantage of it ( 2 Corinthians 2:11). To prevent this, you must seize every opportunity for reconciliation. This approach will not only restrict the devil but also deepen your relationships.
It is easy to tag your loved one as an opponent during a disagreement. But the real opponent is the issue at hand. Instead of fighting to win, focus on resolving the problem together. A relationship can only thrive when both people are working on the same team and not against each other (Amos 3:3).In the heat of an argument, your emotions can easily cloud your judgment. This is why you need the help of the Holy Spirit in your relationships. At times like this, it is important to remember that you are led by the Spirit and not your feelings.
It is important that you navigate conflict from a place of love. When it comes to resolving conflicts, you must be willing and ready to forgive the other person. The Scripture admonishes us to forgive others just as we have been forgiven (Ephesians 4:32). Therefore, let your heart not be hardened from hurt.
Finally, before pointing fingers, it is important to examine your heart—are you letting pride in? Can you extend grace to the other person? Conflict should not be about superiority but understanding and growth. Do not be quick to judge without checking yourself (Matthew 7:3).
Dear believer, conflict does not have to weaken relationships; it can be a tool for strengthening and building them. Remember, the goal is not to win an argument but to build a relationship that reflects God’s love.
Bible Reading Plan: Numbers 21-25; Acts 10:24-48