“For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.”
– Colossians 2:9-10 NKJV
As young people, we are under a lot of pressure from our social media feed, which gives the impression that everyone is moving faster than us. Many young people are under a lot of pressure to be in a relationship, and some give in and end up in the wrong relationships. Others act as if their lives will begin when they find a partner, so they put off their plans until they finally marry.
Your purpose as a believer isn’t dependent on your marital status. In fact, the Apostle Paul saw marriage as a distraction:
“I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs, how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world, how he can please his wife, and his interests are divided …. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.”-1 Cor 7:32-35 NIV
Your purpose in life is to know Christ and to make Him known, and you can do that while you’re single. You might even have more time and freedom for this while you’re single. Your single season is an opportunity to grow. So, what do you do? How do you wait?
Get to know yourself. Become self-aware and identify what you’re supposed to create and build with your life. You are God’s handiwork, created to do God’s work (Ephesians 2:10). So, spend time appreciating what God is building with your life.
As you begin to discover and know yourself, you might find areas in your life that need to change, habits you must drop, and character traits or skills you need to learn. This is the period to do all of that.
You must ensure that there is no dissonance between who people see and the realities of your born-again spirit. Be honest with yourself on areas you must improve and commit enough to put in the effort. Your character flaws do not automatically disappear. If you are not praying well now, don’t wait till you are married to do better.
God’s plan is for two people who are aware of who they are and who are complete in Him to complement each other. If you don’t feel complete as a single person, chances are you’ll feel incomplete in a relationship as well.
In conclusion, stay joyful! Joy is a fruit of your born-again spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). Apostle Paul, a single man, instructed the believer to rejoice always (1 Thessalonians 5:18, Philippians 4:4). It’s not something you get when your life is perfect, and you have everything you think you need. It is the state of your mind, married or single.
Bible Reading Plan: Genesis 38-39