“See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil.” – Ephesians 5:15-16 (NKJV)
Life is a journey and every decision we make determines the direction we take. As believers, we are called to walk carefully, making choices that align with God’s wisdom. Apostle Paul in Ephesians 5:15-16 warns that we must not live carelessly like fools but with discernment make the most of every opportunity.Wisdom is essential, not only in our spiritual walk but also in our relationships—our love life, friendships, and dating choices. A careless approach in these areas can lead to heartbreak, sin, and regrets, but when we walk circumspectly, we build relationships that honour God and bring satisfaction.
A believer who chooses friendships or dating partners without discernment risks being influenced by ungodly values. In choosing a partner you must consider if such a person is God’s will for you. Although God does not choose for you, He chooses with you.The word of God is clear on the kind of partner you ought to look out for. He or she must be a believer. Ignoring this admonition is choosing to forsake the will of God for marriage.
2 Corinthians 6:14 (NKJV) clearly states, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?”
To walk circumspectly in our relationships, therefore; we must first understand the foundation of godly love. God is love, and having an understanding of how God loves gives us a pattern of how to love others. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NKJV) describes love as patient, kind, not self-seeking, and always rooted in truth.True friendships should encourage spiritual growth. A wise believer surrounds themselves with people who challenge them to grow in faith, rather than lead them into sin.
This is something to look out for in a godly relationship. “As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” Proverbs 27:17 (NKJV)In dating, wisdom requires setting boundaries, seeking God’s direction, and avoiding relationships based solely on physical attraction or social pressure. A person walking circumspectly does not rush into a relationship out of desperation or loneliness but waits on the Lord.Walking wisely also means that you recognize when a relationship is not God’s will and have the courage to walk away. Choose to trust God with your marital future.
Dear believer, when you walk circumspectly, you will understand that the love that stands the test of time is one rooted in Christ. Jesus said in John 13:35 (NKJV), “By this, all will know that you are my disciples if you have love for one another.” Our friendships and romantic relationships should be a testimony of God’s love—selfless, pure, and rooted in truth.
Bible Reading Plan: Numbers 11-13; Acts 8:14-40