“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)
We’ve all met someone who seemed perfect, maybe they had the right words, the right look, or just made us feel seen. It’s easy to be drawn to what we can observe on the surface. However, relationships, whether romantic or platonic, require more than chemistry or charm. They require discernment, the kind that only comes when we surrender our will and let God lead us beyond appearances.
To surrender means to lay down personal expectations and preferences and allow God to take the lead. It involves a willingness to let go of control, embrace what God has planned, and find peace and fulfillment in His timing and path for your life. It also means trusting in His love, wisdom, and guidance as He leads you into the right relationships — both in love and friendship.
When Samuel was sent to choose a king for Israel, he judged by physical appearance, assuming Eliab, Jesse’s eldest son, was the chosen one. However, God corrected him, stating that He does not look at outward appearance but at the heart.
“But the Lord said unto Samuel, “Look not on his countenance or on the height of his stature, because I have refused him; for the Lord seeth not as man seeth. For man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7 KJV)
This reveals that divine selection is based on inner character, not surface qualities; a principle that remains relevant when discerning friendships and life partners today.
God desires that we surrender our ideas of what our partners should look or be like, and allow Him to reveal those who are after His own heart, just as He showed Samuel that David was His chosen ruler, even when David wasn’t initially considered. Only God can see the heart and the true intentions of people, things we cannot discern through physical sight or human reasoning. For this reason, it is vital to depend on His guidance when making decisions in all our relationships.
It is possible to know the right relationships, friendships and partnerships to enter into by the leading of the Spirt. When we give ourselves to prayer, study God’s word and listen to goodly counsel, we sharpen our senses to know what God would have us so about every relationship.
Say This: I will never make my friends my enemies, nor my enemies my friends. I am divinely guided into relationships that carry purpose, peace, and alignment with God’s will.
Bible Reading Plan: Psalm 41-43, 1 Corinthians 16:1-24
A timely word. Thankyou Jesus,