“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5 6 NKJV
Marriage is one of the most sacred institutions created by God. It holds the potential to reflect His covenant love and bring deep fulfillment, but it also has the power to expose our flaws, fears, and control tendencies. Many couples begin with passion and promises, but over time, the demands of life, differences in personality, and unmet expectations create tension.
The real question is: Who is leading the marriage, our emotions, experiences, expectations or God? A thriving marriage is not one led by human wisdom alone, but one directed by the Spirit of God.
In the world’s system, self-rule is praised. But in the kingdom of God, surrender leads to strength. At the heart of a surrendered marriage is trust in the Lord. (Proverbs 3:5–6) When God leads, there is clarity, peace, and purpose. When we lead ourselves, frustration and confusion often follow.
Many couples rely on what they learned from family, culture, or even past pain, but Psalm 127:1 reminds us, “Unless the Lord builds the house, they labour in vain to build it; unless the Lord guards the city, the watchman stays awake in vain.” Our own strategies are not enough; God must be the builder and the guide.
Surrendering your marriage doesn’t mean silence or weakness. It means letting God’s Word and Spirit shape how both partners lead and follow. For husbands, it means loving sacrificially. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her” (Ephesians 5:25, NKJV). For wives, it means submitting to God’s structure of spiritual order. “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22, NKJV). But this submission is not about inferiority; it is about agreement with God’s way.
Daily surrender is expressed in prayer, patience, forgiveness, and humility. It shows up when decisions are brought before God, when offences are released, and when love is expressed, even when it’s hard. Marriage becomes a testimony when God is allowed to take the lead.
Isaiah 30:21 (NKJV) gives a powerful promise: “Your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, ‘This is the way, walk in it,’ whenever you turn to the right hand or whenever you turn to the left.” That guidance only comes when we are still enough to listen and humble enough to obey.
A surrendered marriage is not a perfect one; it is a God-led one. It’s a relationship where both husband and wife allow Jesus to sit at the center, where decisions are shaped by prayer, where mistakes are met with grace, and where love is modelled after the cross.
God is not just a helper in marriage; He is the originator of it. If you’ve been trying to fix or lead your marriage on your own, it’s time to step back and let the Lord take the wheel. What you surrender to Him, He strengthens. What you yield, He uses.
So today, surrender your marriage not in defeat, but in faith. Let God lead.
Bible Reading Plan: Psalm 44-46, 2 Corinthians 1:1-24